R-E-S-P-E-C-T

The Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary defines respect as "high or special regard; esteem." In a classroom setting, this word is defined slightly differently.

Concisely, my definition of respect surrounds a significant principal:

Respect in the classroom is the mutual understanding between the educator and the student to treat each other with said "esteem." An educator who demonstrates respects is one who treats the student with appropriate regards. This can take on many forms, but it is not to say that the educator sees the student as an equal. Rather, the educator fully understands the emotional and mental capabilities along with their limits. The educator understands their role in the student's life: always a pillar; sometimes a disciplinarian; never one to judge their ideas, but rather to help shape these ideas to form positive and productive youth; a resource for assistance; a mentor to help shape goals; and above all else, an educator provides the student with the necessary skills to excel both in academia and in larger society. The educator is also sympathetic to outside challenges the student may be facing, and finds creative solutions for finding individual success amidst sometimes difficult times. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the student looks to the teacher as an authority figure to guide them through their academic year. Whether openly admitted or (mostly) never verbalized, the student shows respect to the educator by entrusting their minds to them. They unconsciously, respectfully trust that educators are competent in their respective discipline to pass on the knowledge to them. This is not a light form of respect, and it is something that educators must work very hard to be held worthy of.

The bottom line is that this mutual respect pours the foundation for a productive and stimulating classroom, as well as establishes authoritative boundaries. With this respect, an educator is going to be able to be much more active in guiding "safe" discussions and experiences, accomplishing broader goals, reaching more students, and teaching at a more rapid pace with better retention. Most importantly, the student will learn more. The teacher will not be distracted, as it were, monitoring misbehavior, outlining proper language and etiquette, nor forced to remove a student from the classroom (which does not help that student.) This is not to say that creating a respectful classroom eliminates all disciplinary issues; the teacher will still have to address these. However, if both the student and the educator buy into this idea of respect, both will be more willing to meet at the middle (more like the student travels 3/4 of the way, but they will see it as a fair compromise) and they will see the larger goal--education--as the most important aspect, and other common distractions will seem trivial.

The one question that sticks out in this discus ion on classroom respect is "how does one establish such respect?" That is a good question, and one that I do not necessarily have the answer to. I believe a lot of this comes with experience and time. It is not something that is automatically granted to you by students because you have a college degree, rather something you will have to work for. In the past, the fact that you were a teacher automatically gave you the respect of the students; however, the trend now seems to be that teachers almost have to "earn" their respect. Regardless of the whether or not this is right, the fact is that it is what is happening, and as educators, it is our challenge to face. It is the educator who much earn the respect of their students by showing respect to their the students. The educator, in their authoritative role, must be the initiator of mutual respect in their classroom in order to develop a respectful atmosphere as well as be given the appropriate reciprocation.

Dispositional Reflection

1.) Describe a time when you were treated with respect by a teacher and a time you were disrespected by a teacher.

For the most part, I have generally been respected by teachers. One particular instance that stands out to me is that I had a high school instructor who was going to be late to a class due to a faculty meeting. He asked me to begin the class with warm ups. It showed me that this particular teacher had enough respect for me, and saw the respect my peers showed me, to entrust his class to me for ten minutes, and still have an effective rehearsal period.

One instance that stands out to me happened very recently. I have a course which meets two days a week, and you have one week following each lecture to complete a quiz about the material covered in that course. It was the afternoon before the week was up, and I logged onto the network to take the quiz. However, the quiz said it had already closed. I e-mailed the instructor asking if this was a mistake, and I heard back the next day that it was in fact a mistake, and the quiz would be re-opened. Nonetheless, I still feel that this educator did not show me adequate respect. I was in the mindset to take the quiz, and I had appropriate time allot ed in which to do so. Even though it was a mistake, my hectic schedule and studious nature were not respected.

2.) When did a teacher's compassion make a difference in your life?

There was a death in my family right before exams, and I was unable to attend them. Most of my teachers had me take the exams before I their scheduled date; amidst grieving over a sudden loss, I was also studying for exams that naturally were not on the top of my priority list. I had one teacher who told me to go spend time with my family, that the test could wait, and we would deal with it when I was back. This teacher's compassion towards me and my situation made a difference in my life; they knew where I was coming from, and really understood what was the best course of action.

3.) How do you know where your limits are in expressing authenticity?

I think this is kind of a trial-and-error approach. Each student's comfort ability level with authenticity is going to be different. It is always important as an educator to authentic, and one should always display genuineness, but not all students will respond the same way to it. It is important to find personal boundaries that is appropriate for each student.

4.)Can you think of a time when you became more interested in a subject because of a teacher's enthusiasm?

One of my English teachers in high school was absolutely off the wall looney about teaching her subject. She enjoyed so much talking about literature and learning about literature, that it was hard for that displayed enthusiasm not to be contagious. It ended up being one of the classes I took the most from.

5.)Why do most teachers and students find it so hard to be reflective?

Students and teachers find it hard to be reflective because the very nature of reflectiveness demands personal criticism. Often, it is hard to admit our mistakes. However, if we look at it as a way we can improve, it has a definite impact on our reflections. We no longer are looking for the places we went wrong; rather, we are looking for places we can improve for the next time. It is a more constructive form of reflection.

6.)Which of Gardner's eight multiple intelligences is your main creative strength?

I believe I have a good balance of Gardner's intelligences. If I were to chose just one, I would identify it as music. Music has become one of the driving forces in my life, and it is this music that I inspires me to teach; I want to share this music with able and receptive minds.

7.)Describe a time when you helped someone believe in their ability to succeed at something.

I worked with students over the summer on a musical. There was one in particular who had terrific talents, but just did not trust themselves nor their abilities. Throughout rehearsals, I always made a point to encourage them (without showing favoritism.) That bit of reassurance was the little push that student needed, and to see them bloom during the performances was remarkable.

8.)Describe a time when you or someone you know demonstrated resilience.

The very fact that I am a college student is tribute to my resilience. Being in college and juggling everything that goes along with that part of your life is often very stressful, but finding the joy in that is something difficult. The fact that I am loving life even with the stress proves my resilient nature.

9.)Describe a time when you successfully made an on the spot adjustment in some activity.

Again, I led rehearsals this past summer with a group of students. We worked long days, and I would notice waning attentions, frustrations, and so forth. When I gathered enough of the group felt this way, and that what we were learning was not going to be retained, I would switch the activity up to something easier, go back and review, or tweak my teaching approach to engage them more.

10.)Spend five minutes with your eyes closed paying attention to your in and out breath. What did you notice?

I noticed how calming the sound of my breath was. I noticed the definite rhythm and patterns--in, out, in out.

11.)When was the last time you changed your mind about something important?

To be completely honest, I do not pretend to have answers to things in life. Most of the important things I am faced with, I can see from two different viewpoints, and do not necessarily lean more towards one than the other.

12.)When was the last time you admitted you were wrong?

One of the most important things I learned this summer was from a fantastic teacher who said always to verbally admit when you are wrong. This past Sunday, I did just that. As part of my duties as an RA, I have to fill out logs detailing my interactions and experiences over the course of a week. There was an incident in retrospect that I probably did not handle the best, and filling out this reflection form and admitting where I was in the wrong is both a productive learning tool for me, and an assessment judge for my bosses.

13.)Can you think of a time when you took the initiative to get things started?

I prefer things that get done efficiently and well. Most of the time, if I want this to happen, I have to do it myself. For our Ed Psych study groups, I was the leader this week. It was up to me to set a time and location to meet, send out materials so that the group was ready for discussion, and then carry out those plans.

14.)Describe a highly effective team that you were part of. What made the team successful?

This summer I was part of the artistic staff for Celebration Iowa. This team was very successful and effective working with the students because we all shared the same goal. This commonality allowed us to work past personal differences and create a final product.